Rudeness is the weak person’s imitation of strength is one of the first pins i added to my Pinterest account, back in fall 2011. It’s become a priceless mantra in subsequent years.
I always intended to write about the quote, but when four people across the café porch where I worked yesterday talked at a volume indicating they were the last people on Earth, I knew the time was right.
Although I fixed them with my relentless stare, not one made eye contact. Can we agree it’s harder to avoid looking at people than to occasionally meet their gaze? Plus, it goes against our natural human tendency to acknowledge each other. So I don’t buy them never looking over. But I digress.
The quote reminds me how rude people want the self possession and indifference to attention the strong display. Because strength looks mighty controlling.
From afar, strong people just do whatever they want AND get stuff handed to them. Good service. Box seats at the game. An upgraded hotel room. That nothing-to-prove-ness is irritating when you lack it.
But strong people are just decisive, deliberate, and fair. The cheap version of expressing yourself is through demands, aggression, and force. Rudeness gives people the feeling of being in charge and commanding respect. But it always backfires, announcing their shortcomings instead.
If you know your worth there's no need for confirmation.
If you're uncertain you'll seek assurance.
It reminds me of an incident at my nail salon, where a woman seated beneath the "NO CELL PHONES PLEASE" sign answered a call and gabbed loudly throughout her manicure. To keep calm, I repeated the mantra in my head while watching her. Pathetic, cloying, desperate. That's how she looked. There wasn't a shred of self control, much less power. She acted the role of "I am a Very Important Someone. Yes, Indeed. If You Only Knew."
How does this help you? Rude people are tipping their hand! Drawing a line down their calf to their Achilles heel! Pretty much announcing, Here's where I hurt to anyone bothering to listen.
Don't use it against them. Instead, use it to calm down, let go of frustration at their ignorance, and gain perspective--they're losing every round but you have a choice.
look, you made it! you either have an opinion or you're lost.
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