i jumped on the gratitude bandwagon with everyone else and i’ve enjoyed my stay. but after reading this excerpt from The Unlimited Self by Jonathan Heston, i'm reconsidering my affiliation.
“The person full of appreciation is standing with their arms open, and a free and unassuming smile on their face. They are overwhelmed with thankfulness as they notice all their blessings. At the same time, they are deeply content. This person realizes the ebb and flow of the gifts of life, and so they have less of a sense of ownership over these gifts.
The person who is full of gratitude looks somewhat similar in that they are also thankful, but they are hugging tightly to themselves all that they have been blessed with. They smile as their eyes focus on the things in their arms. They may feel entitled to their gifts, and there is a subtle anxiety in their heart, a small fear that these things will be taken away.
Test this out, and see if you feel the difference for yourself. Think of something you are thankful for, and then say two sentences, one beginning with, “I so appreciate…” and the other, “I’m so grateful for…”’
i see Heston’s point. but in the end, what we call the feeling is less important than how we perceive it. instead of arguing the semantics of “appreciate” versus “grateful for,” we're better served being thankful but willing to let things change, grow, and move on without us. here are mind maps i made of the words. "appreciation" definitely feels light and "gratitude" is almost aggressive.
do you notice a difference? let me know in the comments!
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