"Trust in those messages. They are an accurate description of what came before and of what to do next. Don't fight with reality. Don't defend against it. Rather, read it like you would a newspaper. Read everything that happens to you and to others as pertinent news about the reality of being human, of being you.
...there exists a brilliant feedback system that is working at all times, offering free information about how to--and how not to--function in our world. For every action we take, reality leaves little messages about its wisdom or folly.
If you take steps to accomplish something, that action will have a result--either failure or success...Trust is knowing that there will be a message. When you trust in those messages, the reflections of the phenomenal world, the world begins to seem like a bank, a reservoir, of richness. You feel that you are living in a rich world, one that never runs out of messages...Those messages are regarded neither as punishment nor as congratulations. You trust, not in success, but in reality.
The answer to every problem is already wrapped in the problem itself. I need only stop resisting, open wide to reality, and decode the message." --from Broken Open by Elizabeth Lesser, describing Chögyam Trungpa's strategy.