in a recent work situation i almost cried in front of someone who was angry with me—didn't help that he was a police officer —but i bit the side of my cheek. what’s your opinion on crying in public? — fellow human
you have come to the right place. name a private, semi-private, public, or semi-public place/situation and i’ve cried there. guaranteed.
here’s a partial list to prove my point:
- in classrooms, restrooms, bedrooms, offices, hammocks, and parks
- on hiking trails
- during first dates
- waiting for first dates to start
- before leaving the house for first dates
- in my car
- on modes of public transportation worldwide
- in yoga
- on the sidewalk
you get the idea. sometimes it feels like i’ve cried in front of everyone i’ve ever known, which sounds pretty accurate.
now, you may be thinking, what a sad person this Julia is. and it’s clear why you'd think so, but crying is just my way of handling stuff. as much as possible, i handle sadness as it arises so i came reap its cathartic benefits and move on. and that's what i'd recommend.
people get angry all the time in public, why can’t they get sad?
for a long time i thought everyone knew what i was up to but people rarely notice. it makes me wonder how many crying people i’ve unknowingly wandered by over the years. maybe they just don’t want to get involved, which i can understand, but i think they truly look but don’t see, don’t notice.
an interesting question arises about a woman crying in front of a male police officer, specifically if he would have been gentler if you’d cried rather than bit your cheek. does crying in front of men confer certain privileges? maybe. men certainly want crying to stop as soon as possible and will do anything to make it so.
it’s beyond your control how others respond, but consider your intention behind the tears. if it springs from an emotion, it’s genuine. if you’re doing it to take advantage of the other person, you need to examine your motivation.
overall, i say go for it. doing what you need to at a particular time and honestly expressing your emotions will make you healthier in the long run. however, i would stock up on tissues.