thanks to my “asking revelation,” i’m zapping obstacles with my laser beam of inquisitiveness and moving from one awkward, risky question to the next.
i mostly receive yeses.
and it’s been…great. liberating and invigorating, it gets a bit easier each time.
but i noticed something in the midst of this frenzy.
i often wonder about, question, and get hung up on the unknowable stuff. the future. possibilities. outcomes.
this is, in a word,
because what are you going to do? they are not your reality.
it’s so obvious, but the idea is, question what’s knowable. the find-out-able, right here, right now. within reason. within the bounds of normal. without driving everyone around you insane.
let the rest go.
the more you sift and filter the answerable from the unanswerable, the greater your understanding of where to focus your energy. this quote from Yann Martel's Life of Pi summarizes it well. here’s the protagonist responding to being adrift in a lifeboat with a tiger named Richard Parker.
“To cope with a hyena seemed remotely possible, but I was so obviously outmatched by Richard Parker that it wasn't even worth worrying about. With a tiger aboard, my life was over. That being settled, why not do something about my parched throat?”
the tiger in the boat is all the unknowable aspects of life. the issues so colossal you can’t even touch them.
so, how does one behave while sharing a lifeboat with a tiger? calm, collected, and without sudden movements. try to befriend it while handling controllable issues, like the water supply.
you can wonder about the tiger’s plans, but he will not be rushed. coercion and bribery fall flat. he will only reveal himself and his intentions when ready, at his own tiger-y pace.