By the time you read this, I’ll be flying over, well…the fly-over states. I’m visiting my family back east for two weeks.
I’ll post while away, just lighter stuff.
For example, here are scraps that, in an ideal world, I would’ve spun into linguistic gold before jetting off. As it is, they’re arranged below.
- The sentence to avoid for maximum effectiveness
“I’ll see if I feel like it.” Of course you won’t. But it—whatever it is: laundry, a board meeting, phone calls, yet another supermarket run, a few uncomfortable conversations—has no sympathy. Sometimes you need to just get it done. Forget feelings…occasionally.
- Composure is a form of power
Why stay calm? Because it’s So. Much. Easier. Actually, first it’s really hard. Almost impossible. But then, with awareness, you see past the madness. That’s when the fun starts. Because while the other person is foaming at the mouth, you’re poised. Like with me and my mom.
Plus, when you take the high road, you often don’t even need to pull out anger or frustration as “tools.” You skip that step because the issue resolved itself, minus aggression.
- There is no right way
Sure, there are the ways that don’t injure people, destroy property, or uproot flowers unnecessarily. Otherwise, there’s just the way that works for you.
- The mind gives up long before the body
Yoga teachers love this one. They say it while keeping us in outrageous lunges, impossible arm balances, and endless twists.
But they’re right.
Because if the mind were in charge of our physical exertion, we’d probably all weigh about 480 pounds. No sooner would we walk out the door than it’d announce, Too fast! Getting sweaty. Can’t breathe right, time to stop. And, obedient mind owners that we are, we would.
Next time you want to stop (anything but your car), keep going a bit longer. See what you’re made of. Show that brain who’s boss.