parts 1 and 2 are below
you know that expression, “it’s not all about you,” implying we should get over ourselves and stop assuming we’re the center of the universe? of course you do. i contend it is all about you, just not how you think.
instead of a constant ego trip, every experience is a chance to further understand ourselves. it’s all about you because it’s all a reflection of you. if you’re open to seeing what events demonstrate about you, each one becomes an opportunity for growth. after shifting to this mindset, life becomes a bonanza. rather than feeling wounded by external forces beyond your control, you get this “sock it to me, life!” attitude because you’re curious about what you’ll learn.
for example, i couldn’t deal with instagram because i placed too much value in other peoples' opinions. when they didn’t give me the gratification i needed i felt unworthy. it is so disgusting, so embarrassing, to write those words. but it’s true. i outsourced my self-worth to strangers. and the next step is figuring out why.
arguably, i could’ve stuck with instagram and decided not to care about photo likes one way or the other. but in the end it wasn’t worth it to me. i got the lesson and besides, the less time i spend looking at my phone the better my life is.
i recommend using this portion of the poem ‘After the Gentle Poet Kobayashi Issa’ by Robert Hass as a simple reminder to return to empowered thinking:
From now on,
It’s all clear profit,