vipassana day 10

“always look to see if anything that you are facing as a problem is a negative thing or a positive thing. 

if it is a negative thing then don’t fight with it; don’t bother about it at all.  just look for the positive of it, and you will be at the right door…before you face a problem, just look at it—is it an absence of something? 

and the truth is that all your problems are the absence of something.  once you have found what they are the absence of, then go after the positive. 

the moment you find the positive you have found the light, and the darkness is finished.” - “being in love: how to love with awareness and relate without fear” by osho

vipassana day 9

“it does not mean that a person who is centered in his aloneness, complete in himself, cannot make friends.  in fact, only that person can make friends, because now it is no longer a need it is just sharing…and when you share, there is no question of clinging.  you flow with existence, you flow with life’s change, because it doesn’t matter with whom you share.  it can be the same person tomorrow—the same person for your whole life—or it can be different persons…it is simply out of your fullness that you want to give.”  - “being in love: how to love with awareness and relate without fear” by osho

this is so true!  i occasionally catch myself behaving this way.  it feels like a state of flow, just endless giving.  those times are really just glimpses, but i hope to eventually string these moments together into a sustained, general contentedness with any social situation.

vipassana day 8

“aloneness means purity.  aloneness means that you are just yourself and nobody else.  aloneness means that you are pure gold; just gold and nothing else, just you.  love makes you alone.  loneliness will disappear, but aloneness will arise. 

loneliness is a state when you are ill with yourself, bored with yourself, tired of yourself, and you want to go somewhere and to forget yourself in being involved with somebody else.  aloneness is when you are thrilled just by your being…need has disappeared, you are enough unto yourself.  but now, a new thing arises in your being.  you have so much that you cannot contain it.  you have to share, you have to give.  and whoever accepts your gift, you will feel grateful that the person has accepted.”  - “being in love: how to love with awareness and relate without fear” by osho

vipassana day 7

“real love is not a search to combat loneliness.  real love is to transform loneliness into aloneness, to help the other.  if you love a person, you help that person to be alone.  you don’t try to fill him or her.  you don’t try to complete the other in some way by your presence.  you help the other to be alone, to be so full out of her or his own being that you will not be needed. 

when a person is totally free, then out of that freedom sharing is possible.  then he gives much, but not as a need; he gives much, but not as a bargain.  he gives much because he has much.  he gives because he enjoys giving.”  - “being in love: how to love with awareness and relate without fear” by osho

vipassana day 6

pain vs. suffering

“growth is facing the reality, encountering the fact, whatever it is…pain is simply pain; there is no suffering in it.  suffering comes from your desire that the pain should not be there, that there is something wrong in pain.  watch, witness, and you will be surprised…suffering is a secondary phenomenon, pain is primary. the headache is there, the pain is there; it is simply a fact.  there is no judgment about it.”  - “being in love: how to love with awareness and relate without fear” by osho

vipassana day 5

“if you want to have a life of ecstasy you will have to accept many agonies.  if you want the peaks of the Himalayas then you will also have the valleys.  but nothing is wrong with the valleys;

your approach just has to be different…if you want to have peaks you will need to grow roots into the valley: the deeper your roots go, the higher your tree will grow.  the tree cannot grow without roots and the roots have to move deep into the soil.”

“…if you avoid pleasure then naturally great pain is not possible; it comes only as a shadow of pleasure.  then you walk on plain ground; you never move on the peaks and you never fall into the valleys.”  - “being in love: how to love with awareness and relate without fear” by osho

this concept reminds me of a northern california girl i knew at my small, new england liberal arts college.  she was determined to keep an even keel and stay mellow (i know she sounds like a humboldt county stoner, but she wasn’t).  she just stayed aloof from emotion and tumultuous experience.  this sounded like the right approach at the time-logical and sensible, so i tried to adopt it.  i failed miserably and eventually gave up.  reading osho years later it’s clear her method is like sanding down the mountain tops and filling the valleys with gravel. 

vipassana day 4

“love comes like a fresh, fragrant breeze into your home, fills it with freshness and fragrance, remains as long as existence allows it, and then moves out.  you should not try to close all your doors, or the same fresh breeze will become absolutely stale.  in life, everything is changing and change is beautiful; it gives you more and more experience, more and more awareness, more and more maturity.”  - “being in love: how to love with awareness and relate without fear” by osho