when i say i’m busy (it’s rare) i actually mean i: am not interested
don’t feel like it
need to be alone
and i don’t think i’m alone, if you know what i mean. because really, what have we been up to? running a country? curing cancer? negotiating world peace? it’s not that our lives are insignificant, it’s just that busy is such a handy catchall excuse everyone understands.
recognizing it as such is one thing, but some people think being busy is positive. as though busyness were a badge of honor or a status we can only hope to achieve. i think it means just the opposite—you’re running around like a chicken with your head cut off. it’s a sign things need to change.
busy is a force against us. it appears as though you’re getting stuff done but you’re just treading water. it’s a false sense of accomplishment and implies a lack of control.
think about it, does anyone sound or look inspired when they say they’re busy? no. they’re breathless, tense, and unhappy. because they’re in the midst of an uphill battle. they’ve surrendered to mayhem and now they’re scrambling to manage their lives.
busy ≠ important
busy ≠ special
busy ≠ good
busy = frantic
busy = reactive
busy = confusing quantity with quality
more importantly, reaffirming your busyness just solidifies it into a self-fulfilling prophecy. since thoughts become things, accepting a busy present ensures a busy future.
in fact, i try not to use the word “busy” at all because it’s such nonsense. instead, i try to be honest about why i can't do something without being offensive. obviously we all have periods where there’s too much going on (see? avoiding “busy” is easy) in our lives but there are more empowering perspectives.
alternatives include “i’m getting a lot done” or “there’s a lot to accomplish but it’s under control,” or “i’m being productive.” all three put you back in the driver’s seat. you know what you need to do and you’re doing it.
the worst part is sometimes people are kept busy by incredibly unimportant things. when prioritizing, keep this quote by Goethe in mind, “Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.” just don’t use it as an excuse to skip my birthday party.