“relationships are like homework assignments. we are assigned people from whom we can learn valuable life lessons. when a person leaves, it means the assignment is over and it’s time to move onto the next lesson.”
-- i can’t find the source for this. whenever i search even parts of it, google gives me a bunch of horseshit about literal homework assignments and the value of teamwork. if you know who said it please share.
at any rate, i believed that quote for years. after printing it on an index card i tacked it to my corkboard. from that perch it stared down at me, a reminder that, simple as pie, the end of any kind of relationship meant i had necessarily learned something. but that isn’t a given.
i don’t know about you, but just because i’d (painstakingly) finished my pre-calc. assignment did not mean i understood it. completing your homework is completing your homework. understanding is a different issue.
because now i see this: the lesson is over when you learn the lesson. and you’ll receive the same one repeatedly, in different forms, from various people, through a multitude of circumstances, until you understand. then you move forward.
the person leaves whenever the person leaves. that’s beyond your control. your focus is the lesson. wonder early and often about it. once you discover it, digest it, and put it into practice.
why don’t they teach that in school?