“if you want to have a life of ecstasy you will have to accept many agonies. if you want the peaks of the Himalayas then you will also have the valleys. but nothing is wrong with the valleys;
your approach just has to be different…if you want to have peaks you will need to grow roots into the valley: the deeper your roots go, the higher your tree will grow. the tree cannot grow without roots and the roots have to move deep into the soil.”
“…if you avoid pleasure then naturally great pain is not possible; it comes only as a shadow of pleasure. then you walk on plain ground; you never move on the peaks and you never fall into the valleys.” - “being in love: how to love with awareness and relate without fear” by osho
this concept reminds me of a northern california girl i knew at my small, new england liberal arts college. she was determined to keep an even keel and stay mellow (i know she sounds like a humboldt county stoner, but she wasn’t). she just stayed aloof from emotion and tumultuous experience. this sounded like the right approach at the time-logical and sensible, so i tried to adopt it. i failed miserably and eventually gave up. reading osho years later it’s clear her method is like sanding down the mountain tops and filling the valleys with gravel.