“real love is not a search to combat loneliness. real love is to transform loneliness into aloneness, to help the other. if you love a person, you help that person to be alone. you don’t try to fill him or her. you don’t try to complete the other in some way by your presence. you help the other to be alone, to be so full out of her or his own being that you will not be needed.
when a person is totally free, then out of that freedom sharing is possible. then he gives much, but not as a need; he gives much, but not as a bargain. he gives much because he has much. he gives because he enjoys giving.” - “being in love: how to love with awareness and relate without fear” by osho