recently i was explaining two theories of time, which i’ll discuss in depth soon. here’s the CliffsNotes version: one concept says we’re the victims of time’s scarcity, the other that we are where time comes from and can create enough of it to do what we need and want.
clearly, i was rooting for the latter. but the guy i was talking to was unimpressed. he said it didn’t matter because almost anything is provable and/or able to be debunked.
i said, “ok” and moved on. why didn’t i fight with the fervor of a missionary until he saw my perspective as the one true viewpoint?
because i don’t care.
being right holds no allure. it feeds the ego, but that is dangerous territory- the Helmand Province of the mind.
in fact, it didn’t matter 1) if he believed me or 2) if my theory is even correct
i only care about believing what best serves me.
i trust all manner of ideas many find bogus--karma, the law of attraction, meditation--because they make my life better, not because they’re necessarily backed by scientific studies.
instead of asking, “is this proven?” with new ideas, i ask, “does it help me without hurting anyone?” and act accordingly.
as humans, we have the amazing chance to think outside our circumstances and adopt the mindset we want. normally we aren’t conscious of this, since evaluating our thought patterns is hard work, but if you’re willing, you’ll be rewarded.
this poem by Rumi perfectly describes the effects of doing so:
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about.”
this field is amazing. and guess what? it’s open to everyone. it isn’t tucked in the grounds of an exclusive country club or situated in a faraway land. it’s inside you.
all you have to do is decide your soul is better off lying in the grass than fighting petty battles over correct and incorrect ideas.
are you willing to use the idea that serves you best or do you prefer being right? what if you repurposed the energy spent converting others toward strengthening your resolve in your beliefs?
see you in the field.